Wait...How Many Weddings Are You Having?

I suppose it's not so uncommon to have more than one wedding.  Especially for military people...I'd say about half of my friends had a legal wedding as well as the "show" wedding.  Even Amanda said she sees it a lot more lately among her clients.  Sometimes (ok, frequently lately...even that's an understatement), I don't want a second wedding.  It's stressful, it's expensive, it causes fighting and mistrust and hurt feelings.  I have to prod Jason to get his wedding stuff done because he's working 15 hours a day and not sleeping enough.  It's not fufilling the original purpose of getting our union blessed in the Catholic church (I will have to actually enter a church for this to happen...sigh.  The things I do for love...)

Ohhhhh GOT...I love you (via fanpop.com)

And things like this:

just don't help.  Hey, person I invited...I love you (obviously!), but really???  Here's why:  Jason has 4 living grandparents who live in the Milwaukee area.  I have no living grandparents.  I would LOVE to have it in KC, but that's not fair to his grands.  I was already selfish and barred them from attending the JOP wedding. This one is more for them, and our friends.  And so we can finally exchange rings, and have a legit party.  Yeah, we'll probably have another when we are 100% married in the church as well.  No, unfortunately none of them will be at my home...I wish I could.  This is probably more of a rant than anything else....I can't make anyone happy except us!  So I wanted to at least halfway explain our motives.